Comments on: A Busy Day on Home Affairs

by: jim hamilton

Tue, 08 Jan 2008 07:55:59 +0000

Tony, To an extent you are correct I am certainly in need of personal gratification because I am in a situation which leaves me unfulfilled sexual. I agree that sex when paid for does not involve a loving relationship which is one of the main reasons men ( particularly married men)enter into paid sex because the last thing they want is a relationship which gets complicated/emotional.
However I disagree about your point about prostitution debasing the prostitute , to my knowledge none of the ladies who work in the establishment I visit feel in any way debased . In fact they regard their position as positive, they see that men are willing to pay significant sums of money to have sex , the men may have a choice as to which lady they have sex with when they come in but after that the lady is in control.
Also certainly by having a regular lady as I now do you build up a relationship , in my job I visit lots of companies and you build up a relationship with your suppliers and customers to the extent that they become friends. This is the situation with the lady I visit we have paid sex but we are now friends and I have no doubt that when either of our situations changes we will stay in touch.

by: Tony Makara

Mon, 07 Jan 2008 21:31:24 +0000

Jim Hamilton, men who use prostitutes are misinterpreting what sex and a relationship should be. Sex is a bonding act of intimacy within a loving relationship. When sex occurs outside of a relationship either casually or through prostitution it becomes about using another person as a vessel for personal gratification rather than rather than being a positive experience that brings two people closer together. This inevitably changes the mindset of the individual who starts to see the casual sexual partner as being ‘an object’ rather than a person. Prostitution debases not only the prostitute but ultimately for the client destroys the true meaning of the sexual act.

by: jim hamilton

Mon, 07 Jan 2008 15:00:40 +0000

As widower in my forties with 2 teenage children with a full time job it is a good thing I can afford to pay for sex. I have tried dating agencies but to no avail so paid sex is the only outlet I have other than masturbating.
Fortunately after a couple of what might be described as disappointing encounters I have now found a lady who satisfies my needs and is at the same time good company. Whilst it is a business transaction it is like all business transactions so much better when the buyer and seller have mutual respect for and a degree of friendship with one another.
As other contributors have said the Police have ample powers already to deal with the seedier side of the business so no more laws are required except to legalise the activity and give protection to the escorts primarily women but also men who provide the service.

by: jean shaw

Sun, 06 Jan 2008 07:32:31 +0000

Given that the Women’s Institute voted at their Conference last year in favour of the legalisation of prostitution since it was the only rational means of protecting working girls why are we considering laws which will simply drive it further underground.
Also why are we considering further laws when the Police have ample powers to prosecute the real criminals i.e those who live off immoral earnings. If the Police cannot implement existing laws what is the point of adding any more .
As Beverly says one of the few ways women can achieve success and security is by providing a service which men really need . If it was not such a service how can you explain why thousands of emancipated BRITISH women in control of their own futures can charge fees of upto £500 per hour in London and throughout the rest of the country the average hourly fee is over £100 . The Conservatives should support such a clear example of supply and demand and market economics

by: Tizzy

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 22:14:13 +0000

Ed, did you drop my comments? They were waiting for moderation yesterday - nothing has appeared.

by: S Jamieson

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 20:05:02 +0000

I am reminded that in my young single days, on occasion I would buy my date a meal and drinks in the hope of “scoring” I suppose it was a form of paying for sex.
I am not sure how this law would be enforced. Street offences are fairly easy to enforce but there are web sites and magazines which advertise prostitutes. Presumably the rendevous is in a hotel room or at her “business” premises- neither can legally be classified as a brothel. Thinking about it further, if two adults come to what is in effect a business arrangement, what has it got to do with the state.
Rather than seek to impose new laws, maybe the state should try to enforce exisiting ones properly. Yes to street offences, yes to keeping a brothel, yes to properly policing the drug laws (too many young women and men take up prostitution to feed a habit) and one must say that were the nations borders policed properly then the influx of sad exploited young women to this country would be stemmed.
I read some years ago that it was calcuated there were several thousand prostitues active (both part and full time)in the West Midlands!!! I suppose that to criminalise them and say their on average, ten to twelve clients per week would add significantly to the National DNA and figerprint base- and a fat lot of good would be achieved

by: Terry

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 19:32:37 +0000

Ed, so encouraging to hear that on the gay hate crime you are effectively protecting traditional moralists like me - refreshing as well.

by: Janice Small

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 16:37:19 +0000

Hate crime can be used as a vicious tool to persecute rather than it’s intended use. I have taken soundings from my gay friends who say they do not need it. Again, the police will not have the increased manpower to implement this law and physical violent crime will increase.

Prostitution. I have changed my mind on this. I used to think that if women wished to sell their bodies and were not used by pimps then that was their choice. However, with the increase in human trafficking for prostitution (read slavery) we have to take a harder line on this. I am still open to argument on licensed brothels because we can help the drug addicts and the vulnerable.

I am afraid that this smacks of a government that cannot stop meddling rather than making a real difference to people’s lives and personifies the control freakery of New Labour. I also think that this has not only been thought up by the politically correct left but then taken up by the spin doctors who think this is a stick to beat the Tories with by, hopefully, exposing us as homophobic and racist.

by: beverly johnson

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 07:33:47 +0000

I am an escort , I voluntarily decided to become one. Why because it was the only way that I could achieve security and empowerment as a female. I come from a poor background left school when I was 16. No prospects , I saw my girl friends drifting into single motherhood unhappy relationships dead end jobs. I worked for about a year as a shelf stacker with a leading supermarket group. Prospects in another 10 years I might make it to be in charge of a section in the store!! I enjoyed sex and saw the opportunity to take advantage of this and manage my own life. Today at 29 I own my house and a flat ( place of work ), I pay taxes through my ” PR ” company, I have investments for the future and a pension plan, I work hard at present but am very much my own mistress and answer to noone , I estimate that when I am 35 I will have sufficient money to keep me for the rest of my life and will be able to enjoy myself.
Street prostitution shopuld be better controlled as the girls who work in it generally have not chosen that life. Escorts and massage parlours should be legalised as the girls there usually have made a conscious career choice. The police already have sufficient power to control sex trafficking the problem is they fail totally except for an occasional PR raid to do anything. Also you have to remember that with the freedom of movement within the EU most of the girls coming here are now from member countries so are not illegals

by: Will Parbury

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 02:57:50 +0000

Wednesday not Wedensday! If you want to run the country at least learn to spell. Not convinced that we should lock punters up for it. Naming and shaming in the press, a rehabilitation course looking at the lives of prostitutes and large fines should help in the first instance followed by tagging and removal of driving licences for repeat offenders.